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FIRE & ICE
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Question Wednesday, March 10, 2010
Fire & Ice I have a question surrounding Facebook. I was on face book before my boyfriend and he had a problem with this. I explained that my use of fb is/was not to pursue men nor to be hit on by men. We separated for a while and go figure he joined immediately. When we reconciled we agreed to amend our pages to reflect our relationship status. Since then he was caught using FB to have inappropriate conversations with other women I have given him another chance. I have not asked him to close his FB account because I know that limiting his resources will not make him be faithful. However he his adamant that I close mine and is willing to close his. I have had been hit on via FB and have told him and this is his reason but I feel as though, its about trust and FB will not be the deciding factor in either of our choices to stay committed. We have had history of past situations that has caused mistrust on both sides. Part of me feels like I'm being penalized for his indiscretions (in relation to fb) by being asked to close my ac but another part wonders if I should make the compromise to rebuild the trust. What to you think? Also let me mention that his argument is that most men including himself only use fb to pursue women and I have male friends on fb
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- Ice
Believe it or not I was having a very similar conversation with some close friends. I dont believe that FB is the problem its how people handle having this networking source. Now if you both have trust issues closing your accounts will not solve them and should either of you choose to get angry it wont take much to reactivate it or open a new page. In your case I dont believe FB is the problem, I think you two need to talk about the trust issues at hand and start from there. FB should only be a step to make it go further.
Hope this helps.
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- Fire
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