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Question   Thursday, March 25, 2010

I am having serious trust issues with this, that I would potentially consider being in a serious relationship with. At the moment we are just dating casually and I have not explicitly told him about my feelings for him. Part of the reason of why I am being non-committal is that on one hand, he has a tendency to shower me with praise and proclaim his love and desire for me, but then I can go weeks without hearing from him or seeing him at all. I know many women would love to hear such praise, but for some reason, when he tells me these things, it is more likely to upset me and give me reason to think he is giving me a line he thinks I want to hear. It has gotten to the point where I don't believe a single thing that comes out of his mouth. I have let him know my suspicions, but he always says he is being truthful. I want to give him the benefit of the doubt, but I cannot stop thinking he is a liar. Am I over-reacting, do I have trust issues or am I genuinely seeing what this guy really is.. a charming, lying, sneaky S.O.B?

- Ice

I can see where you could think that especially with the praise and then not seeing or hearing from him for weeks, like what the hell is that?!?!?! A woman instinct is all she really has and 9 times out of 10 they are right so follow them...I would ask him why he does these disappearing acts and see what is response to that is. But just from reading this I would defiantely have my guard up and think that he is a charming semi-sneaky guy...
- Fire

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